I get emails and questions all the time about personal students and their behaviors. I get asked for the "quick fix." I know that we teachers can get overwhelmed and stressed and look for an answer- but we have to remember its not that easy. Behind every behavior is a reason. Without knowing the kid, I can't be of much help. I love behavior, I flock to behavior, I love the puzzle of solving the meaning of the behavior, however I cannot fix behaviors over the internet. It takes time, observations and a relationship to understand WHY the child may be exhibiting challenging behavior. What I can do is provide tools, visuals, tricks and experience to help YOU, the teacher, fix the behavior.
To start, let's look at behavior as a whole.(I did not "invent" this idea of using the iceberg metaphor..I've heard a million different versions of this analogy, several analogies have been applied to the formation of an iceberg, however I cannot find the original author...If you know the original author please let me know so I can give credit."
This model helps me to have patience and compassion for the student rather than just getting angry or frustrated. This is also crucial for teachers to remember when training and managing staff. At times our staff can get worn down and bitter towards one student if they are being presented with challenging behavior after challenging behavior. It is important to remain positive and remember why we are in the field we are in :)
So, how exactly does a behavior relate to the iceberg? Here is an example of a common behavior, anger:
We may see a child acting angry. Should we just tell them to "stop being angry?" Well, no. It's not that simple. It is up to teachers to find the antecedent to the behavior. What are the triggers? What is the true meaning of the behavior? Possible contributing triggers to anger could be bullying, hunger, family troubles, anxiety or communication challenges. The list can go on and on. If a child is angry because they are hungry. It's simple. You can either feed the child, talk with the family about a hearty breakfast, or teach the child to communicate that they need a snack to help regulate their emotions. Now, it's not always that simple to just"feed" the child. We must also teach students the basics of behaviors so that they can learn expectations of being a responsible student. It may sound silly, or simple, but we may sometimes need to teach to the trigger, not always the behavior.
I know that we have all been taught about the ABC's of behavior and determining the antecedent. However, I see SO many tired teachers forgetting this important step. I hear teachers saying negative things and "giving up" on our students. I wanted to take today to just quickly refresh educators about the importance of digging down below the surface of each behavior so that you can truly help each student. Without doing so you may only be applying a "quick fix" to the problem and not fixing it completely!